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you can try Settings->Environment->Notebook appearance->Tabs style
Is there any chance that your wxGTK is built against GTK3?In GTK3 the native tab art is not available, and after a fast search I wasn't able to find an easy way to reimplement it, so we'll need to do something to prevent this ugliness...